Happy Valentines Day! I decided to get this post out a day early so that I could add my two cents into this ‘holiday’ at a relevant time. I really wanted to bring a little bit of realism into this day as I feel like everyone gets caught up with the hype of it. We are all lucky in some way. I know that I am very lucky to be married to a really amazing man who I know appreciates me. However, I do look at other people in my life with a little bit of envy too. So heres a reminder to myself, and to everyone else, about how regardless of your situation you have these five things to be grateful for.
I know this sounds ridiculous but you should be your own best friend. Love yourself and be grateful for who you are. There are always things that you are not going to like about yourself which is completely normal, but see past your flaws and appreciate your own strengths. Spending time with yourself is really important. So be grateful for who you are and treat yourself this Valentines Day. Put on your favourite movie, get your favourite food and enjoy yourself for who you are.
Those You Love and Who Love You
Everyones life is very different, some people have great intimate relationships, some are very close to their families and some surround themselves with great friends. Whatever the case, I’m very sure that you have at least someone in your life that you love very much and who feels the same about you. This may not be a partner of some kind but there’s no reason to not show appreciation to the people you care about. Whether this is sending some flowers to your parents or spending Valentines Day eating chocolate and drinking wine with your best friends. Think of something that would mean a lot to someone important and do it! Valentines Day should be more than romance, it’s a day that gets a lot of people down and I think it’s a great opportunity to make other people feel good.
Your Relationship Status
So you’re single? Great, get together with your other single friends and have a good time. No one you know is free? Amazing, this is a great opportunity to treat yourself! Do something you love! In a serious relationship? Awesome, you know what your perfect date night is, or this is a great opportunity to do something different. In a new relationship? Cute, organise a date that you think you’ll both enjoy.
Also as a side note, I know traditionally the man is supposed to organise Valentines and women are supposed to sit around and wait to be courted by a man and if you’re not then your life has no worth but who cares! It’s a modern world and I think it’s cool to have lady balls and take charge.
The Little Things
Ok so your reading my post and it’s making you feel all kinds of sassy and negative because your life is terrible. I’ve been there. You feel awful about your situation and just feel low, so low that nothing is cheering you up. At the very least take a moment to think about what you do have in your life. Whatever it is, from your health to your pet to your comfy bed. I know it’s hard to see the good when all seems so bad, but sometimes reminding yourself about what you do have can take the edge away from what you don’t have.
Your Life As It Is
This is an abstract thing to be grateful for but it’s so easy to be looking at the future or that past and seeing what could be or what was. Take today to just appreciate where you are. The stage you’re at of the relationship you’re in. Be grateful for what your life at the moment is teaching you. Even when things are hard, it’s the hard times that makes us strong and teaches us skills to keep going. Even if celebrating Valentines means splitting a box of chips and sharing a $7 bottle of bubbly at the beach rather than a set meal in a fancy restaurant followed by a hotel stay, then that is just as fabulous. Whatever way you are celebrating enjoy it! Enjoy your single times with your friends and enjoy your relationships.
My point in the end is to enjoy yourself. See the best in everything and use today to celebrate those you care about. Spread joy! Be the happiest you can be, even if that’s hard.
Thanks for reading,