First off can we talk about how lovely it would be to be a cat? Seriously jealous of this little munchkin who gets to sleep and play and eat all day! I’ve been thinking about doing this kind of post for a while but was unsure what I wanted to say. But I think it’s an important thing to talk about.
I’ve been going through a pretty stressful time this last year and it’s been pretty hard to deal with. I moved back to Perth from the UK, where I had been living for two years, and had to leave behind my fiancé Jamie. We’ve been doing it long distance for almost a year now and that’s pretty tough, but we’ve been told that the visa will be approved, still no date though! I have also attempted uni, which I’ve pretty much hated, and struggled with work and money on top of that. So this year has been difficult to deal with, so these are my steps to deal with stress.
1. Talk about it
Don’t bottle it up inside, whatever is stressing you out will feel 10x worse if you feel alone in dealing with it. No one but you can fix the problem, but talking to someone about it can make it seem easier and help you see things more clearly. Sometimes they can also offer up solutions you may have missed!
2. Take time out for you
When you’re stressed it seems like the best option to stay busy and get things done, and in some ways it is, but the more your stressed and the more pressure you put on yourself to get everything done straight away the worse it all seems. I like to work out what I need done in what time frame and use that to my advantage. Then I work out how much time I can spare. Sometimes it’s 10min to have a cup of tea or coffee, play with the cat, catch up on a youtube video or write up a blog post. Otherwise I have a long shower and freshen up, put on my snugglies and then get to work.
3. Look after yourself
This is what I always need to remind myself of!! We all function our best when we are healthy. Keep up the exercise, it increases blood flow to the brain and releases endorphins which decreases stress! Eat healthy foods with good fats and loads of nutrients to keep yourself feeling good. Most importantly, get enough sleep!! It’s so easy to feel as though you have to stay up to finish that assignment or apply for jobs, but your cover letters and assignments can get sloppy when you’re feeling tired. So go to bed early, you’ll feel way better when you wake up about everything, then get up and get straight into your day. There is no point in letting yourself slip into unhealthy habits because you’ll just feel worse in the long run.
4. Get organised
I started to mention this in step 2 but I want to reiterate that it’s so important to know exactly what you need to get done and what’s the most urgent. I find having each thing set out in steps that I need to take and prioritised so helpful, because I then can work on one thing at a time. Otherwise I tend to try to focus on everything at once and just feel totally overwhelmed. I also like to have spreadsheets for finances and lists and everything! I’m a little crazy.
5. Just get it done
It’s so easy to take my above four tips and turn them into procrastination techniques. Don’t do this. Have your freak out and talk to people and look after yourself and make your lists and take time out for yourselves but don’t use it as an excuse to not get things done. It can be daunting sometimes to deal with what is causing your stress but you’ll always feel better once it’s done. One of my favourite mottos is that good things come to those who go out and earn it. For your life to change, you have to change what you’re doing.
So, I hope this is helpful to someone, I’ve been feeling very overwhelmed lately but I feel things are starting to change and my hard work is paying off. I definitely need to be reminded of my own advice from time to time and most especially step 3.
Thank you for reading,