Okay, so you’ve found the place of your dreams after reading this post, but now you have to start thinking about packing. This is probably the most stressful part of moving house, and definitely where the most fights happen.
1. First off, read The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo, then make your partner read it. I used her tips a lot when packing. Everything you pick up, question it. Every time you pack something, think about how much you’ve used that item. If you doubt it, get rid of it! Another really good point to take from it is combining all the same items and sorting through them at the same time (e.g. get ALL of your shoes in one place). This will take longer but will make the unpacking (and downsizing) a hell of a lot easier.
I also want to say that it can be beneficial to go through some things alone. Mutual use items you should go through together as it could be unfair to make executive decisions about items you both use. However, when it comes to your own clothes and mementos, do it alone or you’ll be swayed by their opinion. For example I had a blue dress that I loved and wore on my first date with my husband. He adored this dress, but I got over it. It had a few stains and it just lost that special for me, I just didn’t want to wear it anymore. I know that if he was there, he wouldn’t let me get rid of it!
2. Pack strategically! My plan is always necessities first (duh). I always have the important items like everyday beauty/skincare items, a good range of day to day clothing, toilet paper, bedding/towels and kitchen ware go first. Obviously everything needs to go, but if you don’t have the luxury to move all at once, make sure you have these items first. If you can move all at once, make sure these items are clearly labelled and easily accessible.
Tip: Do not just throw everything into a box last minute to be sorted through later. This is absolutely, definitely not what I did…. (lies)
3. Plan it out. Have a complete plan, like who is in charge of what? What needs to be done first? What is important for each of you to have on hand? When are you going to pack/move/clean? Plan. it. out.
4. Following on from point 3, COMMUNICATE. The most fights occur from misunderstandings. Write your plan down together and make sure both of you are feeling happy about distribution of responsibilities.
and finally, 5. Do it your own way. For us, it meant continuing life and moving around work and social life. We did a lot of it separately too. I did a lot of the packing and unpacking. Essentially the new place was my responsibility. Jamie did the actual moving and the majority of the cleaning of the old place. Figure out your own styles and play to your strengths as a couple and as individuals.
Moving house is such a stressful experience and it can cause a lot of squabbling. Just remember that it’s a temporary situation and you guys will come out of it completely fine. Have a laugh, make it fun and focus on the future!
What’s your moving tips for keeping calm and not having a massive argument with your partner?
Thanks for reading!